Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Wiser: Honest Talk for Midlife and the Second Half of Life
Wiser is a podcast for anyone navigating midlife - your 50s and 60s - and looking to build a second half that's clearer, freer, and genuinely your own.
Hosted by Rob Bialostocki, each episode is a relaxed, honest conversation about the real stuff of this stage of life: grief and loss, friendship, identity, purpose, relationships, and what it actually means to grow wiser rather than just older. No spiritual fluff, no gurus, no "10 hacks to reinvent yourself" — just grounded ideas backed by real psychology, lived experience, and 25+ years of coaching, delivered like a chat with a trusted friend.
If you're feeling the shifts of midlife — a career plateau, a changing identity, questions about what's next — and want some honest company for the journey, this is that podcast.
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Wiser with Rob Bialostocki
Ep 20 - Happiness in Your Second Half Depends on Alignment
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Do you feel discontent in your relationships, career, or daily life at times, despite outwardly having what you want? The answer often lies in a values problem - a misalignment between what we truly value deep down, and how we actually live. When our behaviours don't match our core values, we can experience tension, which can look like unhappiness, stress, or even physical symptoms.
In this episode, we discuss why this happens, give some examples to illustrate, and suggest how you can close the gap.
Key Points
- Our behaviour reveals our actual values, regardless of what we claim to value.
- Values conflicts are often the root cause of relationship problems and career dissatisfaction.
- Signs of values misalignment include persistent unhappiness, stress, and sometimes physical symptoms.
- Two main solutions: either adjust your stated values to match reality or change your situation to align with your values.
- The importance of brutally honest self-reflection in identifying what’s truly important to you.
- How to navigate values differences in relationships through communication and compromise.
- Why temporary discomfort during values realignment leads to long-term fulfilment.
- Practical steps for bringing your daily choices into harmony with what matters most to you.
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Thanks for listening! See you again soon.
Rob
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